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Minutes
Karen opened the meeting at 3:00pm.
Announced that the program will be C.P.R. classes. John Plough will be the
instructor. Cost is $15.00 per person
Put off committee setup until all officers and more members can be present.
Next meeting win be 7/21/01 I
July meal will be a Cookout
Grills-; Karen, Lisa
Burgers and Hot Dog; Abby
Potato salad; Karen
Buns-; Karen
Apple pie, Marissa
Snacks; Michelle
Announced that we will have speaker for Rock N Roll Hall of fame and
discounttickets.
Discussed the situation with sissify.com . Alpha Omega has been
removed from the site and other chapters have removed themselves also.
*35.00 collected from spice bear raffle.
Cheryl announced that the Tri-Ess International Board Meeting is Sunday
immediately after SPICE.
Meeting adjourned. Cheryl motioned. Ari seconded.
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KATHY
& MARTIN’S COOKOUT
For
the observant-I just copied last month's announcement
For, I believe, the seventh time, Kathy and I (Martin/Gloria) are going
to have a cookout at our home. The date is Sunday, August 19, 2001. You can
arrive any time after 1:00 p.m. Dinner will be some time around 4:00 p.m.
Kathy and I provide the food, coffee, tea, water and some soft drinks.
The only things we ask you to bring are yourselves, and any special
refreshment your might want (beer, particular soft drink, etc.) that we
haven’t mentioned above.
We will have a volleyball net set up (weather permitting), and we also
have horseshoe pits and other lawn games available.
This is a RAIN OR SHINE event! This is also a NON-DRESSED event, a chance
for everyone to meet the guy in your life.
I am a big proponent of getting to know the whole person; and this is a
great time in a relaxed atmosphere to see ourselves as we are in our every
day lives.
If someone needs directions, please, let me know. We are trying to get a
count of how many are planning to attend, so we would appreciate a word one
way or the other.
Hope to welcome you to our home in August.
Kathy and Gloria
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Discrimination Protection for the
Transgendered in Rhode Island
Reported by Miss Sally Stone
In May, the Rhode Island House of Representatives narrowly passed a bill
that would protect gender identity and gender self-expression from
discrimination. The vote passed by a margin of 46 to 41 and the vote did not
follow party lines
Without this sort of legislation, transsexuals and crossdressers can be
fired or denied employment for expressing their
gender identity. The new bill would end that sort of dis crimination, and
give transgendered individuals protection similar to those enjoyed by
homosexuals.
The current civil rights law, passed in 1995, already prohibits
discrimination based on religion, sex, nationality, age, disability, and
sexual orientation. The 1995 bill originally included protection for the
transgendered but the authors re-worded it when it looked like the bill was
in danger of being overturned.
Now, the new bill must pass in the State Senate and be ratified by the
governor. If the bill passes, Rhode Island would become only the third State
to bar discrimination based on gender identity and gender self expression.
The bill may face some stiff opposition in the Senate; however, because the
Rhode Island Senate tends to be a little more conservative than the House.
If Rhode Island does in fact sign these new protective measure s into law,
it may send the mess age to other states, to follow suit. it is encouraging
to see such legislation coming about and it is long overdue. The best thing
about these new laws is that in spite of them targeting transsexuals
primarily, cross dressers are being included.
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Food
For Thought
The older I get, the more I enjoy Saturday mornings.
Perhaps it's the quiet solitude that comes with being the first to rise,
or maybe it's the unbounded joy of not having to be at work.
Either way, the first few hours of a Saturday morning are most enjoyable.
A few weeks ago, I was shuffling toward the basement shack with a steaming
cup of coffee in one hand and the morning paper in the other. What began
as a typical Saturday morning, turned into one of those lessons that life
seems to hand you from time to time. Let me tell you about it.
I turned the dial up into the phone portion of the band on my ham radio in
order to listen to a Saturday morning swap net.
Along the way, I came across an older sounding chap, with a tremendous
signal and a golden voice. You know the kind; he sounded like he should be
in the broadcasting business.
He was telling whomever he was talking with something about "a
thousand marbles." I was intrigued and stopped to listen to what he
had to say.
"Well, Tom, it sure sounds like you're busy with your job. I'm sure
they pay you well but it's a shame you have to be away from home and your
family so much. Hard to believe a young fellow should have to work sixty
or seventy hours a week to make ends meet.
Too bad you missed your daughter's dance recital. He continued, "Let
me tell you something Tom, something that has helped me keep a good
perspective on my own priorities."
And that's when he began to explain his theory of a "thousand
marbles." "You see, I sat down one day and did a little
arithmetic. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I know,
some live more and some live less, but on average, folks live about
seventy-five years.
Now then, I multiplied 75 times 52 and I came up with 3900, which is the
number of Saturdays that the average person has in their entire lifetime.
"Now, stick with me, Tom, I'm getting to the important part."
"It took me until I was fifty-five years old to think about all this
in any detail"; he went on, "and by that time I had lived
through over twenty-eight hundred Saturdays. I got to thinking that if I
lived to be seventy-five, I only had about a thousand of them left to
enjoy.
"So I went to a toy store and bought every single
marble they had. I ended up having to visit three toy stores to round up
1000 marbles. I took them home and put them inside of a large, clear
plastic container right here in the sack next to my gear. Every Saturday
since then, I have taken one marble out and thrown it away. I found that
by watching the marbles diminish, I focus more on the really important
things in life.
There is nothing like watching your time here on this earth run out to
help get your priorities straight "Now let me tell you one last thing
before I sign-off with you and take my lovely wife out for breakfast This
morning I took the very last marble out of the container. I figure that if
I make it until next Saturday then I have been given a little extra time.
And the one thing we can can use is a little more time."
It was nice to meet you Tom hope you spend more time with your family,
and' hope to meet you again here on the band. 75 year old Man. this is
K9NZQ, clear and going QRT, good morning!"
you could have heard a pin drop on the band when this fellow signed off. I
guess he gave us an a lot to think about. I had planned to work on the
antenna that morning and then I was going to meet up with a few hams to
work on the next club newsletter. Instead, I went upstairs and woke my
wife up with a kiss. "C'mon honey, I'm taking you and the kids
to breakfast. ""What brought this on?" she asked with a
smile.
"Oh, nothing special, it's just been a long time since we spent a
Saturday together with the kids. Hey, can we stop at a toy store while
we're out? I need to buy some marbles..."
A friend sent this to me, so I to you, my friend.
"If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus
one day, so I never have to live without you." -Winnie the Pooh
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Your
Husband Is Still The Same Man
by
Kim Nolen
Typically the wife who learns about her husband's cross dressing
after many years of marriage has difficulity understanding and
coping with this seemingly drastic altered perception of who her
husband really is. She may feel that he betrayed her trust by not
telling her sooner or that she failed as a woman or that he is less
of a man. The following is my response. It is directed to
every wife who finds herself confronted with thissituation and tells
her husband to deny and hide this part of himself.
You ask why it was a big secret for so many years. Look at what is
happening because he brought out his secret to you. Does that not
tell you something? For him to tell you had to be very hard
to do. Sometimes it takes a long time because CDs are not sure what
it is all about and are confused themselves. You know you still have
and are married to the same man. Because he chooses
to express this particular part of his gender by wearing feminine
clothing does not change who he is, it just adds another perspective
to his whole person. What is it that really has got you frightened
or upset? Is it because you think he is no longer the MAN you
thought he was? He is still the same man. This has
nothing to do with what sex he is, it has to do with the fact that
he is made up of both the feminine and masculine genders and he
chooses to express the side of him that is feminine gender in this
way. It has nothing to do with SEX.
It is an interesting fact that in some of the Indian nations these
people are honored and protected. They are known as having
twin Spirits and are often the Shamans. In those tribes, or at
least some I know, that it is not only the man who can choose what
he wants to do but also the woman. There are women who choose
to be warriors and they are respected. They are not forced to
be the one working in the fields and tending the children as they
too have the right to choose because they also can have twin
spirits. The Shamans are the ones that deal with family
problems because it is thought that they have a better understanding
because they are made up of both masculine and feminine.
I know that none of this is easy for either of you. He is presenting
you with things that you do not understand, and I am sure are
frightening because you do not know what they mean or where it is
going to lead. On the other hand, you are asking him to deny a part
of who he really is. You are telling him
that he should be ashamed of that part, and that he needs to hide
it. Sometimes we need to step back for a moment and try to
understand what the other person is going through, how they feel,
and what it has cost them to share the secret. I do hope that you
will not take offense with my comments because I am not trying to
judge, I am just expressing what I feel. I hurt for you both.
I wish that you can find happiness and peace. It really
can be a wonderful life and, it does not need to be one of shame,
hurt and
denial.
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Have
You Read This?
My
Husband Wears My Clothes Peggy J. Rudd
Crossdressers and Those Who Share Their Lives
Peggy J. Rudd
Crossdressing With Dignity:
The Case for Transcending Gender Lines
Peggy J. Rudd
Transformations:
Crossdressers and Those Who Love Them
Mariette P. Allen
Men In Dresses
Dr. Vernon Coleman
Aspects of Gender
Leslie Gordon
The
Tradition of Female
Transvestism in Early
Modern Europe
Lotte C. Van De
Pol
transvestites and
Transsexuals:
Toward a Theory of
Cross-Gender Behavior
Richard F. Docter
Clinical Management of
Gender
Identity
Disorders in Children
and Adults
Clinical Practice, No
14 Ray Blanchard, Betty
W. Steiner
Gender Reversals and
Gender Cultures:
Anthropological and
Historical Perspectives
Sabrina P. Ramet
Gender Dysphoria:
Interdisciplinary
Approaches in Clinical
Management;
(Journal of
Psychology &Human Sexuality, Vol 5)
Walter O. Bockting, Eli
Coleman X
Gender Disorders and the
Paraphilias
William B.
Jr. Arndt
Identity Management in
Transsexualism:
A Practical Guide to
Managing Identity on
Paper.
Dallas Denny
Male Femaling:
A Grounded Approach to
Cross-Dressing and
Sex-Changing
Richard Ekins
Male
Homosexuality in Four
Societies:
Brazil, Guatemala,
Philippines, and the
United States
Frederick L. Whitam,
Robin M. Mathy
Transsexuality in the
Male:
The Spectrum of Gender
Dysphoria
Erwin K. Koranyi
Changing Sex:
Transsexualism,
Technology, and the Idea
of Gender
Bernice L. Hausman
Transsexuals:
Candid Answers to
Private Questions
Gerald, Phd Ramsey
Sex and Transsexualism:
Index of Modern
Information
Rosalie F. Zoltano
Transsexualism in
Society:
A Sociology of
Male-To-Female
Transsexuals
Frank Lewins
True Selves:
Understanding
Transsexualism for
Families, Friends,
Coworkers, and Helping
Professionals
Mildred L. Brown, Chloe
Ann Rounsley
Body Alchemy:
Photographs Loren
Cameron
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