I've been writing about my life, and what I think about for over 6 years
now. Because the articles are buried in the newsletter they aren't as
accessible as they might be for people who are curious. One of the more
popular features of this website are people's personal stories. Generally
they are short essays at one point in time. Often things focus on the
first time out. But if you're looking at this site with the question of
what kind of life can you make, how can you deal etc., then you may find some
sort of chronology of thought and activity of interest. My path isn't for
everyone. But maybe you can find ideas that you can use on your own about
what you can do, about being out, coming out, who you relate to and so
forth.
In a way, what this series of essays documents is both a process of me
feeling more comfortable with myself, finding a place for myself in local
society and answering, if only for myself, the questions I pose in the very
first essay. Oh, speaking of essays, here are links to various essays
that I've written that don't show up in newsletters.
| 2000 |
My First Letter to the Editor
Other than some of the language I think it still stands. |
Is that all there is? |
December 2000 |
| 2001 |
| I Lost this group of articles. I wonder
what else is missing from 2001? |
Vagina
Monologues A Wake and Outreach |
May 2001 |
| Group Therapy Report |
Merâl Crane |
August 2001 |
| My First Encounter with Chevrei Tikva |
Congregation Chevrei |
December 2001 |
| 2002 |
| Sugar Plum Fairy Q&A |
The Sugar Plum Fairy |
January 2002 |
| Sometimes it IS about life and death |
Why Alpha Omega is Important |
July 2002 |
| Boys who Like Girly Things- Helping Children Cope with
Stereotypes |
Boys who like |
September 2002 |
| On the Town- Films, Theatre and resources |
On the Town |
October 2002 |
| Still on the Town- and being out to a lot of people. Ballet,
film, and meetings in California |
And
Out of State |
November 2002 |
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| 2003 |
| Cross-cultural Crossdressing |
Crossdressing in Arabia |
January 2003 |
| A lesson from a computer game |
My Skirt and Blouse Give Me Magic Powers |
January 2003 |
| Hedwig and a great New Years Party |
From the Hotline During the interregnum |
February 2003 |
| Bits and Pieces (generally reviews) |
Not Family
Fare |
March 2003 |
| Film Festival and Meeting People from the Circle |
Bits and Pieces |
April 2003 |
| ENDA in Ohio |
The Ides of March and other dramas |
April 2003 |
| Grey Pride, Akron Coffee House and Circus |
Bits and Pieces |
June 2003 |
| Review- The New Girl |
The
New Girl |
June 2003 |
| What A support group might prevent |
Who We Serve |
June 2003 |
| ENDA, Venuu and Pride |
Bits and Pieces |
July 2003 |
| Playing Hooky |
Playing Hooky |
July 2003 |
| Providing Information |
One of the purposes of our site is to inform the public |
July 2003 |
| August and September |
Catching Up |
September 2003 |
| Victor/Victoria, Onnagata |
Bits and Pieces |
October 2003 |
| 2004 |
| In which I find it hard to hold a discussion |
Thoughts on Meeting and Hearing and Chatting with Amy Bloom |
January 2004 |
| Trans- Retreat |
Trans |
January 2004 |
| Sacred Words, and the trouble they cause, plus things in
California again |
Bits |
February 2004 |
| My Husband Betty Review |
MHB |
March 2004 |
| Sociology Study and Outreach |
Bits |
April 2004 |
| Wedding Dress Sold on E-Bay |
Bits |
May 2004 |
| In which I go to a seminar on Feminism and Femininity in Art |
Feminism and Femininity |
May 2004 |
| Why we don't have Pictures and Samantha Walls |
Picture This |
May 2004 |
| Bits and Pieces |
Bits |
June 2004 |
| Labels and Curves- Women's Spaces |
This Transgender Business Again |
June 2004 |
| Pride 2004 and Hate Crimes |
Bits |
July 2004 |
| Review and Meditation- DeLovely |
Delovely |
August 2004 |
| Movie Review |
Ghostlight |
August 2004 |
| Theatre Review |
Leading Ladies A play by Ken Ludwig |
September 2004 |
| Book Review |
Monstrous Regiment |
September 2004 |
| Movie Review |
Zatoichi A Takeshi Kitano Film |
September 2004 |
| Is there a cure for crossdressing? |
A Cure for Transvestism |
September 2004 |
| Book Review- She's Not There by Jenny Boylan |
She's
Not There |
October 2004 |
| Theatre Review- |
A Bright
Room Called Day |
November 2004 |
| Ordinary Life- A baby Party and Dinner with Friends |
THE WEEKEND |
November 2004 |
| Another Varla Jean Merman Review |
The Girl with the Pearl Necklace By Diane S |
November 2004 |
| Wild Plum Theatre Review |
TOUCHED |
December 2004 |
| 2005 |
| A Second look at who we serve |
Who we serve |
January 2005 |
| Comments on College Newpaper Article and on "White
Chicks" |
BITS |
January 2005 |
| On the Death of a Friend |
Choices I |
February 2005 |
| How We Support People and other items |
A ROVING REPORT |
April 2005 |
| Another argument against them |
Labels |
May 2005 |
| East Side, West Side All Around the Town |
LIVING A LIFE FULLY |
May 2005 |
| Pauline Park- NYC Activist |
CLEVELAND VISIT |
May 2005 |
| The Goddess Talk and other things |
ENJOYING LIFE |
June 2005 |
| What happens when you have to walk by people who you know
and care about...and they don't recognize you? |
Passing
Unseen |
June 2005 |
| For a crossdresser thinking of leaving the house for the
first time and their SO |
COMMUNICATION CHECKLIST |
July 2005 |
| Thoughts for a struggling spouse |
DEAR SLEEPLESS
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August 2005 |
| Sometimes Analogies Help, tourism, summer residency and
immigration |
Immigration
& Summer Visitors |
September 2005 |
| An interview with the actor and review of the Play "I
Am My Own Wife" |
I Am My
Own Wife |
November 2005 |
| In which I meet an on-line friend and get some feedback |
Ah
we had the giftee gee us |
November 2005 |
| On what I won't be writing about- I may be out a lot, but
the people I care about aren't |
Self
Censorship |
December 2005 |
| Notes from some recent reading in which I wonder about some
unreliable narrators and narratives |
What
Story do we tell and Why |
December 2005 |
| 2006 |
| I didn't particularly care for this film...here's why |
Breakfast on
Pluto- a review |
January 2006 |
| I had mixed feelings about Transamerica- read this for some
observations you won't see anywhere else |
Trans-America
Review |
February 2006 |
| I take on two common notions in T* space that I think
hurt more than help |
Gender
Giftedness and Female Brains |
April 2006 |
| I retitled this, not being able to resist the pun...but this
piece isn't so much my work as simply listing two recent publications that
try to claim ALL the territory for themselves and deny the other, and my
howl of protest. |
A
Tale of Two CDs |
May 2006 |
| Most of the time I feel in synch with the groups of women I
find myself in, here's one where I wasn't and a bit of a movie review that
catches something I think everyone else missed |
Gender
Tests and Kinky Boots |
May 2006 |
| I got around to a number of public events this month, met a
lot of people |
Books,
Writers, Benefits |
June 2006 |
| When we hide in plain sight, we're following a well worn
path- Not only that covering is something just about everyone does |
Covering-
It's not just clothes |
June 2006 |
| I'm often a contrarian, so when I accidentally started an
avalanche of negativity about being gender variant I had to zag in the
other direction |
Lemonade |
July 2006 |
| I write a lot about what happens after you step out the door
the first time. Here's my notes on a presentation in November of
2005 where I try to capture some other people's points of view on this
topic |
What's
Next? Balancing |
July 2006 |
| About some letters from people who have a different take on
crossdressing |
From
the Mailbox |
August 2006 |
| Somehow this play managed to fall flat- read why! |
Measure
for Measure Review |
October 2006 |
| Attending a Birthday Party brought some surprises |
Passing |
November 2006 |
| Why did Diane Arbus chose to photograph certain people and
topics? What does that tell us about the closet? What feathers
exactly are birds that flock together wearing? |
What
I learned from DIane Arbus |
December 2006 |
| 2007 |
| I'd shared this poem with Elaine a few months prior. Little
did I know she'd use it in the Newsletter when I failed to finish the
regularly scheduled column in time. |
Who's
Fooling Who- Poetry |
January 2007 |
| Two month's worth of stuff- Annoyances, parties, movies,
TG101 and Red Hats! |
From
my Diary |
February 2007 |
| Purim and Planning |
Or
releasing my inner drag queen |
March 2007 |
MetroHealth GLBT Clinic Launching
Dinner with H&B in Manhattan &
Attending a Mary McFadden Couture Exhibit |
Or
Life in Pleats |
April 2007 |
More H&B Planning
Honoring Bob & Karen
Oral Histories |
Mayfiles |
May 2007 |
| Helen & Betty Recap, and another Poem |
June
is busting out all over |
June 2007 |
| I lose a friend to cancer |
Friendship |
July 2007 |
| Ms. Park doesn't shy from Controversy |
Pauline
Park at PACT |
August 2007 |
| A self defense class, FtM trans hiphop and
c-space, More from Bailey's camp, My poetry at Bela Duby, and sympathy for
the devil from Erin O'Brien |
Falling
leaves (or too many little essays) |
September 2007 |
| Act a Lady, High Holidays and a Sign of Fall |
Diversity
can be simple |
October 2007 |
| A non-costume Halloween Party and a Review of
"Whipping Girl" |
All
that worry for nothing |
November 2007 |
| First are to look forward to, not back at |
My
First... |
December 2007 |
| 2008 |
| Looking back and looking forward |
Thoughts
on 2007 |
January 2008 |
| Where I compare trans stuff to national and
religious identity |
Assimilation
and Identity |
February 2008 |
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March 2008 |
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